I do not expect a child if he does not show affection are taught to prove it. I do not expect the mother of my son (the first since the second was born a month ago from my relationship with my wife), unable to maintain stable romantic relationships, is able to show affection, and then teach a child what it means means to be loved. Oh, yes, it shows love, but in his own way. Of course the last episode that manifested itself does not make me think otherwise.
In particular episode I am referring to today is the last element of each meeting with the new "little brother". Yes, because in principle the mother, not he, had resented the fact that I had requested to spend the 20 days allowed for the summer holidays in June when he was still distant, but not too much, the expected date of birth of the new baby. Then he asked me, at the request of his son, to shorten the 20 days in 10 (then 15 as agreed in the fish market) and finally asked me to come to Turin to allow Francis to meet the "little brother" newborn (his request was for mid-August, then agreed last weekend of August). Of course my enthusiasm to make incotrare the two brothers without much discussion has made me complacent, because he immediately objected to the fact that the child (now 7 years old) would have to fly alone and come to Turin to only 2 days. Thus, although for me it was important that my son took the plane from only with the hostess escort service that most companies offer Italian (most take on board children from the age of 6 years, some even by 5), I succumbed to the blackmail of "I went up with him so he is quiet and when I visit with the newborn of my best friend who lives in Torino ". I paid the ticket and I asked him he could stay as long as possible with me, with her little brother, my wife and grandparents (as it was for such a short time at least that they should spend the greatest possible with me and my family seemed the most natural thing). In fact I even proposed to be one more day (arrival on Thursday and not Friday as he had she suggested). Nothing!
And here just the latest episode: call to arrange time in which to pick it up on Saturday at the home of. Obviously the other person is the child, not the mother, the proposal on its part are the 14.00, I shall pass over that moment of nervousness and say it's too late to come from Dad. Then release with 12:00! At this point, I propose that between 10.00 and 11.00 to 11.00 am and he accepts.
Well, if that brings a child to contract Time to be with his father I think deep down there is a hand of his mother, who despite good intentions "voice" then do not put in place as proclaimed, should be more with his father because the father has to come in Latin at least one weekend a month in order not to think about the child being abandoned by his father. But when there is the possibility to stay longer the child with his father, but in Turin, then if things change. Then I start to think about and ask yourself, is not that much to want to bring together the two brothers were just an excuse to get paid half plane ticket? For the moment, for me that's okay because at least two but you know you always have to give up all me angry.
When we separated fathers will have more justice? It 's true that there are fathers who are unable to visit their children while I see him and my frequent (though rarely because of the 800 km to remember as I was not I to interpose between me and him because she was the mother to move without my being able to put vetoes), but under what conditions? Now the risk of being in a position to choose to spend the weekend per month with one child and not the other. I absolutely assert my rights as a father of both children and want children have both the rights of children and siblings. I do not want to risk that great why do not you hate it are frequented by children and the father had to contend.
Then when we have justice and all those who failed will begin to pay serious?
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